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Finding Love

The pine trees loomed overhead, darkening the road. Richard’s headlights lit the way. We trusted the car lights, just as we trusted each other. Sixty-two years of training to be cautious stayed with me. At the same time, I was thrilled to be eloping in the tradition of my parents, who also went to Reno on the 17th of the month. For a couple about to be married, we didn’t have much to say.

“A penny for your thoughts?” I finally said to break the ice.

“I was just thinking about all the cars that have LED headlights.”

Was this for real? We were on our way to a wedding chapel, and his focus was on headlights! No TV couple I ever saw was this complacent on their way to their own wedding. However, the shows had dramatic conflicts and high stakes. We only had two different histories and each other.

“I couldn’t turn the clock back or undo my past resistance. All I could do was see what happened next. Otherwise, I would never experience marriage,” I said in Never Too Late: From Wannabe to Wife at 62.

  • Does this sound like you on your way to your first wedding?
  • Or were you sure you were passionately in love?
  • If you got married a second time were you more or less sure that you’d made the right choice?

Obviously I wasn’t sure that I was making the right choice as Richard and I drove to Reno to get married. It was my first marriage and his third.

  • Does this sound unbalanced?
  • What if he grew bored with me?
  • What if he changed his mind?
  • What if he was marrying me for financial security that I was not willing to supply?

These fears and more raced through my head as he had me look for a wedding chapel in Reno.

I wanted to experience marriage and knew Richard was a good man. Not only that, but I was 62-years-old. If I didn’t get married, I would always wonder what I’d missed.

How does a 62-year old woman who's never been married find happiness with a two-time widower seeking his third wife on... Craiglist!?Finding love can be complex. For example, how does a 62-year-old woman who’s never been married find happiness with a two-time widower seeking his third wife on . . . Craigslist!? Does she throw caution to the wind and relinquish her freedom, or should she take a crash course in compromises?

Richard and I have been married almost 6 years, and I know that the first step in finding love is being open to it. Relax, stop judging yourself, and stop looking for Mr. Right. There are all sorts of people who can be Mr. Right if you stop imagining him as being part prince, part warrior, part financier, and part slave to your wishes. If you’re sure you love someone, go ahead and say it. Six years after our marriage it still surprises me how often Richard says, “I love you.”

We both need each other; we both recognize it. If I were the angry, snarly woman I used to be decades ago, I would not have found either Richard or love. Softening, mellowing, and loving yourself are three more ways that you can open yourself up to finding someone to love.

           About the Author

Profile Picture of B. Lynn Goodwin. Author of Never Too Late

Lynn Goodwin owns Writer Advice, www.writeradvice.com. Her memoir, Never Too Late: From Wannabe to Wife at 62 was just released by Koehler Press.

She’s written You Want Me to Do WHAT? Journaling for Caregivers and Talent, which was short-listed for a Literary Lightbox Award, won a bronze medal in the Moonbeam Children’s Book Awards and was a finalist for a Sarton Women’s Book Award.

Goodwin’s work has appeared in Voices of Caregivers, Hip Mama, Dramatics Magazine, Inspire Me Today, The Sun, Good Housekeeping.com, Purple Clover.com and many other places. She is a reviewer and teacher at Story Circle Network, and she is an editor, writer and manuscript coach at Writer Advice.

She can be found online at:

Website: http://www.writeradvice.com/

Blog: https://blynngoodwin.com/blog-page/

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/Lgood67334

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/blynn.goodwin

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/Lgood67334/

Thank you, Ms. Lynn for sharing your heart-warming story and giving hope and inspiration to those who find love late in life.

So, what’s your love story, my dear readers? Are you one of the lucky ones that married your high school sweetheart straight out of college? Has love betrayed you and put you through a string of heartbreaks? Or has love eluded you all your life?

If you’ve read my last post To The Girl Who Wonders “Will I Ever Get Married?,” you know where I stand. 🙂

No matter if you’ve been single forever, are trapped in an unhappy marriage, or simply curious, you’ll find a love story like you’ve never had in Never Too Late.

“A vivid, engaging, and heart-warming tribute to that rare and wonderful thing: a late-in-life love.” Susan Wittig Albert, Ph.D, author of Loving Eleanor and The General’s Women

Check out her story in  Never Too Late: From Wannabe to Wife at 62. It’s on Amazon at Never Too Late and on Barnes & Noble. Or your indie bookstore can order it through Ingram.

 

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Guest Post from B. Lynn Goodwin, author of the new book Never Too Late. The book tells her real love story of finding love at the age of 62. Never give up on finding love for yourself.

 

Comments

  1. Wow so impressed I have never heard from the author but seriously I have found so much inspiration. It was amazing to know more about thank you for write this post.

  2. That’s great. I think the book is written from a lady’s perspective. Some of the ideas may not match with the men but I agree that setting parameters for the Mr./Ms. perfect is mostly disastrous.

  3. Thanks for sharing the post.
    It is interesting to find love at 62. This incident supports a popular opinion that love can happen to any one at any age.

  4. Loved checking out your blog! This book has caught my attention, I will be adding it to my list of books to read. I look forward to checking out some other blogs! I have one friend that I will be sending over to check out your blog for sure! Thank you for staying in touch with me on Insta. –Wendy @lovinglybold

  5. You know just yesterday Iowa’s asked about my boyfriend, for some reason everyone assumes I have one even though I’ve been single for two years now. This is such a wonderful read. Thank you for sharing, I’ll be sure to check the book out.

  6. i really love the part where you said anyone can be mr. right if you would just stop imagining your idea of mr. right. i agree because if someone treats you well and you’re attracted to them, they can possibly be mr. right. thank you for sharing this!

  7. Congratulations to the lovely “newlywed.” In my case I married my husband after dating for 6 years. We are celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary this July.

  8. Congratulations on finding your true love Mrs. Goodwin, and happy anniversary. Indeed it’s never too late… for everything in life.
    I am so guilty of marrying a man whom I thought “my prince, the man of my dream, my Knight in Shining Armour”.
    That fairytale lasted for 6 months, little did I know that I married a black hearted prince.
    But it’s never too late, for second chances. Serendipity brought me a man whom I never thought would exist. In 1 month time we will be celebrating our fourth anniversary 😍

  9. This is such a great example to show that you need to love yourself first before looking for love outside. I’m so happy for Lynn! And thank you Herlina for sharing her story with us, it truly is heartwarming.

  10. I loved this post! Lynn, I like how you mentioned that we need to stop making our potential husband’s half prince because I truly think as little girls, we all grow up wanting the fairy tale. I was married for a long time and I’m now divorced, but not one time on my wedding day was I blissful; in fact, I walked all the way down the aisle saying “don’t do this” to myself. Oh, how I wish I had listened. Hopefully, I’ll find real love someday. Happy Anniversary!

    • Thank you for sharing that, Kristi. Yes, I think we all are a bit brainwashed by those Disney movies. 😉 Maybe I am a romantic. But, I still believe in that true love. May we all have the chance to find and experience it.

  11. Thanks so much for sharing this here. Despite the trip described above, Richard and I are living happily ever after. We’ll have been married for 6 years on February 17.

    I hope you’ll take a look and see if Never Too Late: From Wannabe to Wife appeals to you. Though it’s available many places the easiest access is at Amazon, https://www.amazon.com/Never-Too-Late-Wannabe-Wife/dp/1633936082/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1511161467&sr=1-1 (cut and paste)

  12. This post is so so sweet! It almost made me cry! Congratulations to both of them. Finding love at 62 is so heart-warming. Their story definitely isn’t the typical marriage story but it is definitely one for the books. It proves how faithful God through it all. Thanks for this sharing this story. It certainly brightened my day!

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