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Finding Love

The pine trees loomed overhead, darkening the road. Richard’s headlights lit the way. We trusted the car lights, just as we trusted each other. Sixty-two years of training to be cautious stayed with me. At the same time, I was thrilled to be eloping in the tradition of my parents, who also went to Reno on the 17th of the month. For a couple about to be married, we didn’t have much to say.

“A penny for your thoughts?” I finally said to break the ice.

“I was just thinking about all the cars that have LED headlights.”

Was this for real? We were on our way to a wedding chapel, and his focus was on headlights! No TV couple I ever saw was this complacent on their way to their own wedding. However, the shows had dramatic conflicts and high stakes. We only had two different histories and each other. Continue Reading →

To The Girl Who Wonders “Will I Ever Get Married?”

Has love seemed to ALWAYS elude you?

It’s February – the month of love. I suppose a post about love (or lack of it) is warranted.

If you’re single, February 14 can be the most dreadful day ever. While people all around you are celebrating their love with their significant other, it’s a reminder that you’re alone in the love life area.

You probably saw your friends married their high school sweetheart straight out of college. It didn’t bother you. You were optimistic that you’d meet someone before you hit 30. So, you got busy building your career and climbed the corporate ladder.

Then, 30 came and went. You’ve dabbled in the dating scenes and somehow you are still out of luck with love. (You swore you’d never gotten on Tinder or Cupid ever again!)

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Life Lessons From Option B

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Title graphic for life lessons from Option B

I picked up Option B at the airport on my way home from my birthday shenanigans in November. Since I hadn’t gotten into the bandwagon of owning a kindle (and it is hard to find books written in English here), an airport bookstore it was. I needed something that would help me process my own struggles and move forward.

About the Book

Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy was written by Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook COO, and Adam Grant, a psychologist at Wharton.

Sheryl lost her husband suddenly to cardiac arrhythmia while they were in vacation. Her world was turned upside down in a single moment.

The book tells her personal journey as she went through the excruciating grief of losing a spouse and finding the strength to put the pieces back together again. Throughout the book, she also shares lots of inspiring stories of people overcoming adversity from sexual abuse, illnesses, death of a child, job loss, natural disasters, and war.

Genre: Self Help/ Personal Development

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How to Improve Your Posture

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How to improve your posture when you sit down a lot (blog title picture)

How many hours in a day do you find yourself sitting down?

If you have a desk job, you spend the majority of your 8-hour-work day sitting down. Then, take into account the time you spend sitting down while driving (or commuting in a bus or train) and the time you relax at home when you get back from work.

It’s quite a lot, isn’t it?

Assuming you sleep 8 hours (like you’re supposed to), you have 16 hours to do your activities. Most often than not, we spend half of that (if not more) sitting down. Add to the equation that we don’t always hold the correct posture when we sit, stand or walk. And we’re amazed why we’re having back, shoulder or neck pain.

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Sunshine Blogger Award

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Logo for Sunshine Blogger Award

I received the notification that my blog was nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award a couple of weeks ago. Since December was a busy holiday season, I decided to leave it alone, and I just now decide to do something about it.

To those who are not familiar with it, Sunshine Blogger Awards is given to bloggers who are “creative, positive, and inspiring” by other bloggers. It is an online reward, and when one receives this, it means “the blog inspires their readers and gives a bit of happiness too” — just like the rays of sunshine brightening the cloudy sky. Once you have been nominated you are given a set of questions to answer and then you get to “pass it on” to other bloggers that you admire. Continue Reading →